Helping Your Fussy Baby
All babies are fussy from time to time, but some babies seem to be
fussy more often than others. These babies don’t have colic, and
they also don’t have any medical concerns. They’re just. . .fussy!
Identifying fussy factors
Here are just some of the culprits that can make your baby fussy:
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Overstimulation
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Understimulation
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Hunger
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Tiredness
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Loneliness
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Being too hot
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Being too cold
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Diaper rash
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Food allergies
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Thrush
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Wet/soiled diaper
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Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD)
We could go on and on with this list, but we’re sure you get the
point: Your baby could be fussing over a lot of different things.
One important reason your baby may fuss is that she may not be
getting her needs met. If you have a baby who needs to be held a
lot, and she is kept in a mechanical swing or car seat for most of
the day, you are going to have a fussy and unhappy baby.
Keep in mind that your baby is fussing in order to tell you some-
thing. You may not understand what she is telling you, so she gets
more frustrated as she is trying to get her needs met and whatever
you offer her is not what she is asking for.Offering comfort through
touch and massage
Fussy behavior can often be progressive. If you respond to your
baby’s requests early, you may manage to avoid your baby becom-
ing upset. But if your baby has been telling you for a while that
she needs something, and you haven’t responded until the fussy
behavior intensifies, you will have an upset baby to calm down.
Keep a log of your baby’s fussy times. If you find that she fusses
during a particular time of the day, plan ahead to give her a relax-
ing massage during that time. Relaxing her ahead of time may make
her forget to be fussy.
Chances are that if you have been massaging your baby on a fairly
regular basis, you are attuned to her needs and will respond to her
requests promptly (before they become high pitched demands!).
However, all babies (and adults, for that matter) do have fussy
moments from time to time. Here we list ways to use touch and
massage to calm and soothe your fussy baby:
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Wear your baby in a sling (see Chapter 1).
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Nurse in motion — nurse your baby while she is in a sling and
you are on the go.
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Nurse frequently.
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Sing to your baby while you rock and gently dance with her.
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Carry your baby in the football hold (which we describe in the
section “Massaging to ease colic” earlier in the chapter).
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Hold your baby over your shoulder and, with your free hand,
make Raking strokes down his back (see Chapter 7).
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Place your baby sitting up on your lap, facing out. Push her
forward a little (while your support her with one hand), and
with your free hand make small circles down her back in a
clockwise motion.
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Take a warm bath with your baby, followed by one of the
after-bath massages